A purpose to wake up every morning

     From the ancient wisdom to the modern sciences, meaning in life seems to be a key to happiness. The Greeks were already wondering about it and more recently positive psychology uses it to help people find a more fulfilling life.

     Some say life is absurd, others that life comes before eternity… Who is actually right? And who knows the truth? We sometimes see something as true, true enough to make it known to everyone. But it happens that later on we finally realize that what we have believed in is based on inaccurate information. Truth is not true anymore but will evolve, it changes along with time. 

The truth about life is mysterious. The theories about our origin which would give a purpose to our existence are only hypotheses. Even science, seen as an objective and faithful reference, is only temporally true. We thought the atoms were the smallest particles until we discovered quarks.

We are definitely not born with an explanation for our existence. What we aim at in life can be defined by a culture, a society, certain institutions and by ourselves. We are meaning maker. Since ancient times, we have been created stories to give sense to the world and to our life. With our ability to think we are conscious of ourselves, it goes beyond instinct and feelings. That’s how we can wonder why are we alive or what do we want to do in life.

“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how” once said Nietzsche.

And the meaning or meanings may not be so obvious. However, sometimes it’s simply something or someone that we love. For the musicians, music is a reason to wake up every morning, for a mum it’s her children and for others it may just be to experience life one more time.

Happiness is linked with purpose which actually arises from fulfillment and pleasure. Those are two things personal that vary for each one of us. So motivation comes from inside. If we want to find a purpose to our life we should look inward and see what drives us.

Meaning is what is intended to be and when we think of meaning as a message the question would be: what do we want to say? We all have one voice and an advantage of not having a predetermined purpose is that, to some extent, we are free.

A helpful equation to remember is the one from Scott’s Dinsmore, the founder of Live your Legend who thought that “the intersection of your true values and super powers, backed with relentless passion, is where the magic happens”:

Your Values + Strenghts + Passions = Your Purpose.                                            

Life is mysterious and it’s a journey which leads us we don’t know where but in the meantime we are the one with the compass. ☸

 

      What’s your purpose to wake up every morning?

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Fascinating Autumn

I haven’t really noticed being in autumn last year as I was living close to the centre. I’m now in a pretty green area with several parks around and trees along the road. So I can observe the change of season and I’m finally amazed by the paradoxal autumn. It’s a cold season revealing warm colours.

During its months, the pavement becomes a bed of purple leaves and when the wind is blowing they swirl all around. It’s raining leaves slowly falling down on our feet, covering up the gloomy concrete. I enjoy going out just to hear the leaves crakling  and see them flying away. It can be really pleasant to contemplate nature.

It is a pleasure, a delight and a fascination.

We tend to think that we are above nature but if we have a look at other cultures such as the Native American culture we have an example of a different relationship with nature. They remind us that we live within and as a part of it. We are born from it, after all. And just like us, nature is life. It can give us a lot and that’s why we use it. But we could find a deeper enjoyment in our relationship with nature. “You say that I use the land, and I reply, yes, it is true; but it is not the first truth. The first truth is that I love the land; I see that it is beautiful; I delight in it; I am alive in it” once said N. Scott Momaday, a Native American writer.

A simple walk in a park is source of happiness…

 

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Autumnal walk in South London © 2016 Eva Bonneville
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Autumnal walk in South London © 2016 Eva Bonneville
Autumnal walk in South London © 2016 Eva Bonneville

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4 reasons to cultivate your hobbies!

    I’ve always been amazed to see how people can be so passionate about football, dance, piano or drawing for instance. When we hear a dancer talking about dance, it’s just part of his life and he actually needs to practice. Hobbies can be so beneficial to us. Even though we may have to work, to study or some other duties to be done, we should take time for our hobbies. At first, we may think that’s a waste of time but finally we can get much more than we expect from it.

1- Cultivate enjoyment!

Yes, we all know a hobby is a past time, a leisure something that we do with pleasure. But sometimes we may forget to engage with it that way. The dancer, for instance, may dance not anymore for fun but for perfection, efficiency or even worst dance as an obligation. It can be caused by an external pressure but it also comes from an internal one. We can personally decide how we engage with things and with which things we engage! A hobby is pleasure first!

2- Cultivate fulfilment!

Either we suck at football or we can’t hold a pen in our hand it doesn’t matter after all, that’s for fun! And if we go for it and try we will eventually do something that we didn’t think we were capable of. As a child who is so content with the colouring he has just finished, we will have a better self esteem knowing that we can achieve something. Imagine the painting which could be created. We don’t necessarily need the technical skills if we aren’t aiming for a masterpiece we naturally know how to draw or paint something.

3- Cultivate a stress reliever!

When life is a rush, stress is inevitable. Nowadays, things go faster. We have the possibility to over come the distance, the lack of space or the lack of time. We have access to trains, we can store virtually and we can program repetitive works to be done for us. The result is not spare time, regarding to those possibilities we are finally being asked more. But if life is a journey, as we usually hear, and not a sprint, slowing down and taking time to relax come spontaneously. Practicing a hobby enables us to disconnect, we focus on that activity and live the present moment. We unconsciously reconnect with ourselves. Hobbies can calm us down.

4- Cultivate an activity!

We may spend more time in an office where physical activity is lacking or on the other hand doing physical labour and seeking for different intellectual stimulations. Having a hobby is a pleasant way to find a balance. And in fact taking up a hobby or going back to one will either require a physcial or intellectual activity. That will be beneficial for our health. And the less sick we are, the easier it is to handle life and enjoy it!